If parents teach a child with any method available that the child must be
submissive
extremely obedient
silent about their needs
always content with what they get, even if it’s much less than they need
pleasing to everyone around them
giving others what they want even when it’s harmful and painful to do so
expecting punishment at merely displeasuring someone
expecting pain as soon as they don’t meet someone’s expectations
not good enough unless they make everyone else happy
putting their needs last, or not having needs at all
extremely grateful for every little bit of human decency they get
best in the world in everything, or else they’re worthless
recognizing that people who hurt them most likely do it unintentionally or even worse, out of love
accepting hurtful behaviour without calling it out, complaining about it, or even letting the perpetrator know how much they got hurt
extremely forgiving, to the point where they forgive without even getting an apology, or with the hurtful offense still going on
tolerating insults, humiliation, slurs, and hatred being directed at them
never showing outright anger, rage, resentment, or hold a grudge
never fighting for their rights
never refusing to do what’s asked of them
accepting that they might be unlovable and that nobody will ever want them
then the child is being abused. It doesn’t matter if they use violence, guilt, terror, emotional abuse, brainwashing, threats, psychological abuse, punishment, discipline, harsh language, or if they teach it all to the child politely and with explanations to why they have to be like this if they don’t wish to be a burden on society. To shape a person this way out of convenience and send them off into a world that will abuse, exploit, take advantage and destroy a person like this, is abuse. Nobody needs to be any of these things. And people who aren’t any of these things still aren’t a burden on society. Abusive parents are a burden on society, and on their own children. Children aren’t there to be controlled or used by adults. Children are humans in development. Their boundaries should not be crushed before they even have a chance to develop any.
Psa. & thanks for setting me up to be exploited emotionally and professionally and sexualy for basically forever xxxxoooo
Plume de Lynx 