can I legally have my body divided into fifths upon my death and be buried in five separate cemeteries
That just made me think of something. If you have multiple personalities and they all wanted to be buried in seperate cemeteries wyd??? Would the body be split up or would ppl go against their wishes and bury them in one cemetery???
thats not why Iām doing this but thats an interesting question too
W h yĀ Ā a r eĀ Ā y o uĀ Ā d o i n gĀ Ā t h i sĀ Ā t h e n?
So I went to a cemetery today. It was really nice, I love walking around cemeteries. But when I got to the back I started to feel.. uncomfortable? I got a migraine. I didnāt feel right so I walked back towards the front of the cemetery and when I left that section itās like my migraine instantly vanished.
When visiting a cemetery, it is considered polite witchcraft to ask permission and make an offering to the gatekeeper of the cemetery. The gatekeeper is considered to be the first person laid to rest in the cemetery, so youād look for the oldest grave. But if thatās not possible, you can also look for the tallest monument. Iāve been told itās traditional to knock three times and leave an offering of three silver coins (or dimes). Though I have left other offerings over the years and felt welcome in the cemetery.
For some cemeteries itās acceptable to greet them instead. A bow and a brief acknowledgement of the passing of those around you may suffice, as some places donāt have gatekeepers. Still, if having the moment to do so, meander until you find yourself at a particular grave. Thatās the one you should thank and pay homage to.
And if you only felt that kind of tension in one area of the cemetary, that could be those entities saying āno, not now. Please leaveā and that headache was your direction to wander away towards a different cluster.
The grave of Marie Taglioni, a ballerina who pioneered the en pointe style of dance. Young dancers often leave their dancing shoes on her grave.
to some of the comments Iāve seen on thisā
Marie Taglioni had a different body from other dancers. Modern ballet dancers end up with ābad backsā because weāreĀ trying to reshape ourselves like her but we donāt talk about it.
Looking at that photo, you can see her sloped shoulders and bent-backwards posture. Her head and upper body look pretty relaxed, but if you try to draw a line down to her feet, there would have to be a deep bend in her lower back. Thatās something sheās doing intentionally.
Itās unclear at this point whether Taglioni had scoliosis or some other atypical bone structure. Itās clear from portraits that she always had those rounded shoulders and when she stood naturally, the curve of her spine made her lean forward quite a bit, suggesting kyphosis. Although she came from a major ballet family, as a young woman she was repeated rejected by ballet teachers, who referred to her (apparently to her face) as āthat little hunchbackā.
Training on her own with her father, she developed a way to tuck in her lower back, raising her arms above her head, which lifted up her ribcage so she lookedā¦kind of more like a typically-bodied person.
But it didnāt really make her look like everybody else. Apparently, the posture (and the hours a day, every day, she spent building the strength to hold it with ease) made her look eerily weightless compared to other dancers at the time. To add to the effect, she built up her calf and ankle strength until she could dance for long periods en pointe, which had previously been a very occasional stunt (which involved a lot of arm-flapping, trying to balance. Her statuesque still arms and sheer strength made it look good for the first time).
Her father choreographed the first Romantic ballets, all about faeries and ghostly maidens, to showcase her floating look. She wore knee-length skirts to showcase her gnarly calves and awesome footwork.
You know that most basic image of what a āballerinaāĀ is? Arms up high in that pretty frame that starts to hurt real quick and your butt tucked in and your hips all weird? That position wasnāt part of the ballet canon before Taglioni.Thatās us trying to make our bodies look like what Marie Taglioni made with her body because people were assholes to her.
Dancers started leaving shoes for her blessing, in a way asking how they can struggle to do what she made seem natural.Ā
Thatās us still telling most people they donāt have āthe right body for balletā while we tell the few people who do that they still arenāt enough, because we want people to look perfectly aesthetically able-bodied while doing the thing thatĀ a non-normatively bodied woman created for herself.Ā
Iām not saying able-bodied people canāt dance! But hey, maybe we should think about it before we tell anyone they have to dance or be shaped one way.
(In case youāre wondering, itās not clear if sheās really buried at the be-shoed grave in Montmartre or if thatās her mama. So thatās one of a couple reasons we canāt figure out whether she had a particular condition.)
Sooo…about that grave in Montmartre… After some researches, I can now say that we are totally sure she is not buried here. We know this because she was primarily buried in Marseilles – and got her mother buried in Montmartre. There is still a gravestone for her in the Saint-Pierre cemetery in Marseilles – however, she is not there anymore!Ā
So I wondered where she could be now, and, surprise, surprise, sheās in the PĆØre Lachaise! Apparently her grandson moved everyone there at some point… Thatās so interesting, if I get time Iāll go take pictures of both the Montmartre memorial and the actual family grave in the PĆØre Lachaise… Meanwhile, you can have a look at them on this link, which also recaps about everything I said above but in French…
So if you got a little dancer in your family/friends/acquaintances, please show them the right grave! It would be so nice to see more ballet shoes on it…
Plume de Lynx 